Trauma

 "Trauma is not what happens to you. It is what happens inside of you." 

                                                                                                - Gabor Mate

What hurts is not the pain when someone hits you. How you perceive that action is what truly hurts you.

It can also be what didn't happen to you but should happen. When basic physical/psychological needs are not met. 

Trauma is what happens internally, not externally. 

It's not about the broken bones or the scrapped knees. It's about finding the ability to hope, to trust, to believe in something again, to heal our souls which we think it incomplete.

By knowing its nature, we can seek healing from within instead of trying to fix the external.

We are not what happens to us too. We are who we think we are. 

We are the true creator that defines our own identity.

While we can't undo what has happened in the past, we can change our paradigm and shift our perspective. We can choose not to let what happened to us in the past define our future, define our identity.

Just like the saying: Hurt people hurt people.

It's never personal. Even when someone (or your brain/ego) says it is, you can choose not to accept it.

The same goes for trauma. 

To all the times that you felt like you were all afraid and alone, 

and you can't take the fear and darkness anymore.

You desperately need a change, an escape, or a stop to it in the reality.

Remember that all that has happened is not who we are.

How we define and perceive is more important than what happens to us.

And that is something we can change.