The Goal behind Emotion

 What if behind every emotion there is a goal?

I believe that emotions are an illusion. It's not real in the sense that it can come and go within a second.

So what is the purpose of emotion? Why do we create it in the firsts place? 

In a nutshell, the goal of all emotion (yes all) is to feel superior (or less inferior) in someway to actualize I am. To truly feel "I'm right, you're wrong." I'm better than you".

Example: I see someone doing something I deemed wrong and thus I judge them to be some one I dislike. I chose to dislike. The person perhaps didn't intentionally nor personally out to get me / piss me off  in the first place. Yet, with my new dislike, I will continue to seek out things that validate my point, finding evidence, coming up with story (when there is no evidence) to paint that person in a certain way that fitted  my diagnosis. (some times it even actualized and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy)

Even when they did nothing, it's wrong. The more I dislike, the more I seek of the person weakness. The more weakness I found, the more I justify my dislike, stance and position. It's a self-feeding cycle  to justify myself that I was right.  The more justification I get, the more I feel like I'm better and superior, that I'm right. So one can say the true goal of this dislike is to make my own self feel better. 

Another way to put it: I don't like and accept myself. To do so, I must be better, more right, climb up over others, improve. 

(Could be a coincidence that the word Improve is spelled like I'm + prove. Like the whole point of improve is to prove the existence of I am, the ego)

And what happens if  I can't improve? How else can I bring myself up quickly? Bring other people down. Show and point out to them that "Nah, you are wrong. I'm right". That's one cheap way of gaining self-confidence and self-recognition. 

But it's an illusion right from the start. Create by the ego to manifest it own self. And to keep it inflate, one have to consistently seek out stuff that validate it's viewpoint, its judgement, to prove "I'm right". (to prove I am).

Same goes for anger. Did someone did something that made you angry? Or could the truth be that you felt inferior, were already unhappy and thus you are seeking for things to be angry about and jump up into a rage the  first moment you find a chance to do so. To assert, to raise your voice, to go into "I'm Right, You are Wrong!" mode to feel superior? People can do the shittiest things. We can choose to respond and not react. We can choose to have a conversation instead of jumping straight into anger.

The feeling of victimized and limited is tricky. What is the goal behind: Nah, I cant because …You don't understand.. (and the cycle repeats and one stays a victim) What could be the goal behind this? Here is where it gets dark. Like above example of people seeking other's weakness constantly to reinforce the emotion of dislike, feelings of victimized can be seek out too, thus the term self-sabotaging. "I can suffer and take more shit that normal people, I'm superior" " I am as good as others but I have this thing that I can't do it" " I let other win and I lose because I'm nicer than other people". All these justification to reinforce a toxic version of "I'm right, I'm better than you".

 As within, So without. How you see reflects how you feel deep inside. You don't see a satisfied person dissing about others shit or self sabotaging or trying to prove to the world that they are happy. They have the courage to respect and love themselves unconditionally (even when the whole world felt that you fail and disappointed them). There is no need to struggle and improve: no I am and thus nothing to prove.

When you can do that too, you will be truly satisfied and shall have no use for illusionary emotion.

Just be, just accept and just love.