Fear is Normal

Fear is normal.

It is through fear that we know that we love and value things.

Safety, future, loved one, precious things, life.

If we don't love nor value any thing, there will be no fear.

It meant something to us, thus the fear...

of losing, of rejection, of failure.

An innate trait endowed to us by our ancestors, encoded into our DNA, to keep us save from harm, to continue the species. Fear prevent us from engaging in dangerous and harmful situation, kicked in fight/flight reposnses to focus on the threat and manuveur ourself away from it.

But that was eons ago when humans are not the top of the food chain, and life and death decisions are made on a daily basis. and fear dont stay long enough to become stress that plague us (we either die or we arrived at safety)

Although there are still situations in modern life that puts us in real danger, majority of daily stresses are not life threatening. Hassles, work burnout, loss of love one, quarrels, rejections etc. (Things that dont kill us, but dont disappear easily too)

We don't die from all these, but I guess, something inside us did died a little, and thus the fight and flight response still kicks in.

Thus, stress and fear feed each other in an endless cycle, we need to let go of that fear, leading us away from the truth, that its precisely we love and value that we fear.

Can we love without fear? We have to.

When we fear, we can't love. It runs on the same pathway and in opposite direction.

To love is to let go fear.

Knowing that fear is normal, and can be overcome, we will be free to love freely and unconditionally.